Welcome to Recoverlove
Addiction is a very complicated aspect of modern American life that affects millions of people each day. If we as a nation are going to deal with this cancer on society we must be serious and honest with ourselves , there are lives to be saved. Alexander and Schweighofer state “In the end, addiction is too important to be oversimplified by the restrictive definition… Addiction recovery has to do with the triumph of devotion and the horrors of compulsion. It is something that must be faced in its fullest sense, if we are to know ourselves.”
Full-time workers between the ages of 25-34 with a bachelor's degree made $13,900 more than the same-aged high school grads working full-time.
Workers 45-54 with a bachelor's degree were making $22,900 more than same-aged high school grads.
Clean and Sober 20+years
The miracle happens
one day at a time.
12 Steps for spiritual awakening
1) We admit we have no power over the past and no absolute power over the future and the lives of other people.
2) We come to believe that reality can restore us to a sane state of mind - free of programmed negativity.
3) We make a decision to learn the how to understand and use the trivium and quadrivium.
4) We make a thorough and fearless positive and negative inventory of ourselves.
5) We remove all contradictions from our life.
6) We ask ourselves what we really, really want to do with our life.
7) We make a decision to be completely committed to doing whatever is necessary to legally get what we really, really want out of life.
8) We make a decision to live in the now and accept what is.
9) We make a commitment to ourselves & reality to love our selves.
10) We continue to look at our thoughts, feelings and behaviors and when engaged in negativity, we redirect ourselves to the positive and self-beneficial.
11) Through meditation and contemplation, we seek a moment by moment contact with reality.
12) After becoming spiritually enlightened and financially self sufficient as a result of working the previous steps, we will carry this message to all human beings that are still suffering in ignorance and self hate
The spiritual is when the thoughts emotions and actions are combined together in a concerted organized effort to accomplish something.
It is always in operation the question is - is your spiritual awake or sleep.
One must break the mind control conditioning programs.
When you do not consciously control your thinking you are under mind control.
- The self-actualized person has more efficient perception of reality and more comfortable relations with it. He can accept the good and the bad, the highs and the lows, and he can tell the difference.
- Acceptance of self, others, and nature. The self-actualizing person sees reality as it is and accepts responsibility for it. He is as objective as a subjective being can be in his perceptions.
- The self-actualizing person has spontaneity, simplicity and naturalness. In other words, this kind of person is not hung up on being as others think he should be. He is a person who is capable of doing what feels good and natural for himself simply because that’s how he feels. He does not try to hurt others, but he has respect for what is good himself.
- Problem Centering. The self-actualizing person is someone who is generally strongly focused on problems outside of himself. He is concerned with the problems of others and the problems of society, and is willing to work to try to alleviate those difficulties.
- The quality for detachment, the need for privacy. For all his social mindedness, the self-actualizing person has a need to be by himself or a need for solitude. He enjoys times for quiet reflection and doesn’t always need people around him. He can be with the few people that he would be close to and not need to communicate with them. Their presence is sufficient in and of itself.
- Autonomy, independence of culture and environment. The self-actualizing person is capable of doing things for himself and making decisions on his own. He believes in who and what he is.
- Continued freshness or appreciation. The self-actualizing person experiences a joy in the simple and the natural. Sunsets are always beautiful and he seeks them out. He can still enjoy playing the games he played as a child and having fun in some of the same ways he did many years before.
- The mystic experience, the peak experience. Self-actualizing people usually have experiences in which they literally feel they are floating. They feel very much in tune or at one with the world around them, and almost feel as if they are, for a momentary period in time, part of a different reality.
- A feeling of togetherness. Self-actualizing people have a feeling for all of mankind. They are aware and sensitive to the people that are about them.
- Interpersonal relations. Self-actualizing people have deeper and more profound interpersonal relations than other adults. They are capable of fusion, greater love and more perfect identification that other people could consider possible. They generally tend to have relatively few friends, but those relationships are deep and very meaningful.
- The democratic character structures. Self-actualizing people tend to believe in the equal nature of human beings, that every individual has a right to say, and that each person has his strengths and each person has his weaknesses.
- Discriminating between means and ends, between good and evil. Self-actualizing people know the difference between means and ends and good and evil and do not twist them in a way that hurt themselves or others.
- Philosophical and unhostile sense of humor. Self-actualizing people tend to enjoy humor. They like to laugh and like to joke, but not at the expense of others. They are generally seen as good natured, even though they are capable of being very serious.
- Creativeness. Self-actualizing people are capable of being highly creative. Creativeness can be expressed in many dimensions by writing, speaking, playing, fantasies, or whatever, but self-actualizing do have moods of being creative. Maslow has said that a first-rate cook is better than a second-rate painter. Hence, creativeness can be expresses in many dimensions.
- Resistance to inculturation, the transcendence of any particular culture. Maslow feels that the individual is above his culture in some way, that he maintains a strong individuality and is not so absorbed that he cannot evaluate the culture objectively in such a way that he can make decisions about what is best for him and those he cares about .
- The imperfections of self-actualizing people. Self-actualizing people are individuals who are aware of the fact that they are not perfect, that they are as human as the next person, and that there are constantly new things to learn and new ways to grow. The self-actualizing person, although comfortable with himself, never stops striving.